My incident in Botswana.

1 Dec

I was invited to Botswana by Berry Heart, whom i met last year in JHB. She and I are both ambassadors for UN Women arts advisory council, to end violence against women and children I was invited to Botswana for a number of reasons: I am her SA agent, I was supporting her at her book and CD launch where i gave a key note address and also to activate the One Billion Rising campaign. I am the JHb and North West coordinator and Berry Heart will represent Botswana. The week was filled with interviews, talks and discussions around how we can eradicate violence against women and children. The launch which was held on Thursday evening, went off well.

On Friday evening, i was invited to The sky lounge for a sun-downers and light dinner, we had a great time then we headed off to another event down the road, which was organised by Absolut vodka. It was myself, Berry Heart, Simba Mudereri and David.

The incident happened at a place organised by Absolut vodka, we were chilling at the pool deck! Then all of a sudden this guy comes shouting at David, as I turned around he punched me right in my face! I instantly felt my nose pop!
The people around me told him to apologise he refused! We then went downstairs, told security and management they refused to help as they know who this man is and do not want to get involved. They refused to call the police.

We made a few calls but no answer and we could not wait for an ambulance.
We called the police they didn’t come! I was in too much pain so they took me to the hospital!
On arrival the doctor did a ct scan and called the police again! The ct scan revealed that my nose is in fact fractured. The doctor on duty said i needed to be admitted and that i must wait for the surgeon to come on duty to look at my file and discuss what surgery will be needed.
This was approximately 2h00

I tried calling our embassy but it was closed and the message stated that they will only reopen on Monday
When I heard that the man who hit me was very connected and known for this type of behaviour, I feared, so I called out on twitter n FB for assistance as I was worried he would make contact with me. I simply wanted to get home.
I spoke to Hlomla Dandala and he suggested we get this on radio, ‘Phat Joe’ and ‘Pearl’ then called me! Their support was astounding and it was that discussion that prompted The High commission.

During my admission the nurses on duty were like angels from above, they assisted me and calmed me down as I was quite anxious and scared.

The SA high commission arrived and called the police again. In the interim the Botswana police said they were on their way. They only arrived at about 9 to look at me. When seeing that SA high commission was present they said they would return to take a statement! They came back after 45 mins to an hour!

Mean while my good friend and lawyer at home booked me a ticket so I could get home!

The surgeron who I had been waiting for arrived, did not even take a look at my file he just looked at me and said I could leave. Once again the SA high commission intervened asking how he could make a diagnosis without even looking at my file! He returned reiterating that my nose was fractured and I was alright to fly!

We then dashed to the airport and I made my flight home! On arrival at OR Tambo I went ti Milpark hospital and the doctor adivsed that I didn’t need to be readmitted but see an ENT. This will be on Tuesday as i have to wait for the swelling to go down.
I’m going to see a trauma counselor as I need to debrief and be strong again!

I would like to hank for the support from the following people:
ProudlySA

The SA High commission, in SA and Botswana

BBM attorneys

Hlomla Dandala

Metrofm: Phatjoe and Perl Thusi

The nurses at the Bokamaso Hopsital in Gabarone.

Berry Heart and David for their strength, support.

Simba Mutereri and Lebo for the support and help.

To my friends and family on Twitter and FB messages for the well wishes.

It is such a shame that this has occurred and in a country where the people are some warm, loving and friendly. Its a disgrace that people with power have the right to do what they want. it is a disgrace that i had to get my government to assist with a matter that could have been handled by officials on the ground.

Once I have healed and dealt with the past few days, the struggle will continue. How many other women  have endured this and who were ignored and silenced?

Enough is enough.

Much love and respect,

Aluta Continua.

Rosie Motene

45 Responses to “My incident in Botswana.”

  1. Bryoni December 1, 2013 at 8:27 am #

    Rosie, I send my sisterly love and support for what you have had to endure…. and to answer you question…. you only have to look at a powerful and influential rich man like Charles Saatchi in the UK to see what he can do to a woman….. Men with money and power think that they are above the law and masters of their Universe… what they forget is that it was a woman who brought them into the world and love and cared for them…. what changed is what we have to ask? lv B x

  2. Ndie Barongwa December 1, 2013 at 9:00 am #

    Hi Rosie,
    I just read this post and my heart broke for you and I felt a wave of anger sweep over me because I am a Motswana, I was born and raised in Botswana but I live in Asia now.
    I am really sorry you went through that, I’m am embarrassed by how poorly the police and security handled it. I really am sorry, no one ever ever has to go through what you went through.
    I pray that you have a speedy recovery and you keep raising awareness about violence against women and children. I pray for the success of your agency and every good thing that you do.
    Again Rosie, I am so sorry.

  3. meshack shopo December 1, 2013 at 9:05 am #

    That’s so sad…

  4. Cliff Shiko December 1, 2013 at 9:26 am #

    Hey sister, i am deeply saddend by what happened to you in a “peacefulcountry” and this is what i call real persecution because this is what you stand against for, the violence against women n innocent children and they did it to the ambassador..eish…anyways Tuesday go for da treatment…i will pray to the Lord Jesus to help you, O fole ngwaneso

  5. laetitia December 1, 2013 at 9:39 am #

    I am so sorry for what happened to you Rosie. I think what the man did was pathetic and he should be held responsible no matter how much money or influence he has. Let’s hope your story will help others come foward and report the bastard.

  6. Marc Themba December 1, 2013 at 9:47 am #

    It’s such a shame indeed! Wishing you a speedy recovery Rosie & continue being a voice for the voiceless! Much Love

  7. JuliusT December 1, 2013 at 9:56 am #

    Sad stuff, hope u have healed… did u get the name of this superman wanna be individual….. such give bad names to a peaceful people

  8. mmotlana Dithapo December 1, 2013 at 10:11 am #

    Get well soon mme Motene I do not understand why you had to go through that from no where without having done anything even if you could have done something, the law will take its course, I am behind you and really sorry, the beautiful name of Botswana is being tainted unnecessarily, may god bless and heal you!

  9. hakeem kae-kazim December 1, 2013 at 10:20 am #

    so sorry to hear this happen to you…. the man should be named and shamed!!! get well and stay strong you are an inspiration to so many xxx

  10. Maxwell Dichi December 1, 2013 at 10:42 am #

    I heard u were at Sky when i was there, Um sorry for bad experience and hope you will visit the ones that treated you kindly in Botswana, i lived in SA for sometime being mucked, had bad experiences too but i have good friends there and i continue to visit. Jus remember u should not give him the power to burn u out of the country.

  11. olgah December 1, 2013 at 12:26 pm #

    Sorry about wat happened to you my dear I hope justice will be served to dis scumbags

  12. Ramon J. Thomas December 1, 2013 at 12:34 pm #

    Do recall meeting Marlon Parker from Cape Town who came to check-up on you at the hospital? He was the only person on Twitter, also in Botswana at same time I could ask.

  13. motlalepula December 1, 2013 at 2:36 pm #

    hope u okay Lala,God is great and awesome.u will be ok and back on your feet and thanx to everybody who were there for you.Never give up,take the baton and continue with the race.Together we can beat this

  14. Rumbie December 1, 2013 at 3:02 pm #

    So sorry that you had to go through this & its appalling to note the level of irresponsibility of the criminal justice system ( the officials) in Botswana especially during a period of activism on violence against women. it just goes to show how much of an uphill battle it is to eradicate VAW, your strength and resilience encourages us all. Speedy recovery!!

  15. Thomas December 1, 2013 at 3:33 pm #

    I have been following this ordeal on twitter, since yesterday. Thank’s for the updates. I apologies for what happened to you, my beautiful sister. I wish you speedy recovery.

  16. Charlene Smith (@AfricanJade) December 1, 2013 at 3:39 pm #

    With all the love in the world darling you need to name the assailant, he will keep doing it again and again until he is named.
    As for the SA High Commission it’s a bloody disgrace that they don’t have an after hours emergency number, all other countries missions have this – and would they have come out if you were not a media personality.
    I am so very sorry you had to experience this – the assailant appears not to have been after you, but after this David, you need to name everyone who failed to take action including the hotel because they all need to launch investigations so that this does not happen again.
    We who have power have great ability to protect others my darling. Bless you always and keep you safe.

  17. Tummie December 1, 2013 at 6:27 pm #

    Your story is sketchy..give more detail. Why did the guy punch you? Why was the guy shouting at David?

  18. Letepe December 1, 2013 at 6:45 pm #

    Was in Botswana this past weekend. If that’s what happened to a fellow human being and a defenseless woman at that, then Rose should pursue all available means to find recourse for this incident. No man no matter who should not be accorded immunity nor the status of being untouchable after committing such a dastardly and cowardly act.

  19. kgobi December 1, 2013 at 7:35 pm #

    May God heal you and give a strength

    • Charity K Batlhomile December 2, 2013 at 2:06 pm #

      God be with you my sister,this is really not acceptable ,Botswana is known all over the world as a peaceful country so these kind of people should be taught a lesson.if he is someone who has power as you say that does not give him the right to go around hitting other people.take action my sister because that means he always does this to other women and when is he going to stop it? lets fight it together as african women

  20. Siphiwe Aubrey Sibaya December 2, 2013 at 3:55 am #

    Thanks be to God u were not killed by a lunatic and the Botswana police are just inefficient and harbour hatred for SA remember the Magesh story no individual can be a law unto himself no matter how connected to those that r powerful in society. I wish u a speed recovery. God bless u!!!!

    • mg December 2, 2013 at 10:38 am #

      i think saying Botswana Police have a hatred for SA is not a fair statement…..inefficent, yes i can agree with you there…cause someone might say that SA police have no tolerance at all for foreigners and cases have been well documented…am just saying, coz i assume you are South African..

      • rosiemoteneblog December 10, 2013 at 4:54 am #

        Good day,

        I did not say Botswana police have a hatred for SA. My argument is that i should not have to get my government involved in an incident that Botswana officials could have handled on the ground.Prior to my incident i was met with love and humility. My argument is that if someone wants to report an incident, if someone is unsafe they should be able to rely on the police.

  21. Fyfy Ludick December 2, 2013 at 4:50 am #

    Wishing you a speedy recovery, I should say I’m really embarassed by this incident, as a proud motswana, such incident has jus let our country down in the eyes of many, our justice officials also have shown how much they don’t stand by victims, really really sorry 4 what you went through, I proudly stand behind to help stop violence against women and children……..

    As I try figure out if power and money in Botswana means its ok for someone to do wrong*smh*

    • onalenna kereng-montshiwa December 2, 2013 at 8:23 am #

      justice need to be done, get well my sister and take the matter on. we will support u all the way.

    • Mpho Makha December 2, 2013 at 12:33 pm #

      I am so sorry you had such a horrible experience. Get well soon and don’t let this experience take away your strength and shine.

    • David E Mnjama December 5, 2013 at 4:53 am #

      We now know who it is….

  22. Laurie James December 2, 2013 at 6:37 am #

    Sorry to hear what happened to you but why don’t you publish this persons name. There is a Facebook page called name and shame in Botswana. Claim damages from the person and do it publicly! It really doesn’t help to complain on a blog about some unnamed person.

  23. Salim December 2, 2013 at 10:27 am #

    Its sad…I dont condone wat happened to her, but just as it sounds unfair to her for the incompetence she got from all the relevant authorities, I wonder, is it fair for all those other women and children out there who get no voice, whilst she gets all the world million watts stereos to voice her nose/noise mishaps (women out there get their heads cracked, limbs broken etc *a very sad fact)…*plus the fact that she is not forth-coming with the whole truth as it appears*…and YES, NO MAN CAN RAISE HIS HAND TO A WOMAN, ONLY WEAKLINGS & COWARDS DO THAT, AND THEY ARE A DISGRACE TO THE MENFOLK/GENTLEMEN LIKE MYSELF ND MANY OTHERS. Anywy, my point is just simpl, lets put things into perspectiv, as a so called “celebrity” and an ambassador for “UN Women wat wat”, she is wrong to be using a situation that doesn’t fall within the parameters of wat she stands for, plus the narration of only one side of the story! Her mandate should be changing the mindset of people with regards violence to women and children, and hence she should be aiming at advancing preventive measures, and not cures, (not being rude/disrespectful to others, be it men or women wud be a start), and since she has connections with all the noise makers of the world, she shud be using them to voice the plight of the many other genuine situations of Violence against Women and Children…with regards to the said species *that cannot be from amongst men*, WRONG is too light to use. *Anywy: word arnd the streets is that she placed herself in front of a fist that ws not meant for her*, so it might, i said just might, be that the said species ws nt perpetrating violence against women and children but rather aimed the violence at another man who then uses women and children as a shield…*mmualebe*

  24. heartbeatofadancer5678 December 2, 2013 at 11:36 am #

    This is heartbreaking. May God carry you every step of the way so you can heal and regain your physical and spiritual strength in order to reach out to other victims.

  25. Lala December 2, 2013 at 11:42 am #

    I am so sorry about what happened to you Rosie, in my home country. I hope you’re being restored back to full health. What happened to you is so disappointing especially this time of the year where we’re fighting violence against women and children. As a young woman in Botswana who has been abused and remained silent because of the shame, I fully stand behind you and take courage from strong women like you.

    You’re in my prayers

    Alute Continua!

  26. Otshepheng Dirame December 2, 2013 at 2:28 pm #

    Am so sorry,no one deserves to be treated the way that jerk treated you.dat guy is jus a brat hu thinks money n power gives him the rite to treat other pple badly.he was on the news not so long ago because of violence and this tym they have to make sure he goes to jail.m really sori,may the good Lord give u the streghth to keep on fightin on our behalf

  27. kgabo December 3, 2013 at 5:52 am #

    Sorry for the nasty incident Rosi. This is so embarrassing for us Batswana, people should be free and secure whenever they are in this country or any other country. I think you should pursue this with the SA High commission, the culprit should be named and brought to justice. We need to know who did this to a defenseless woman.

  28. Tshegisi Leriga Kgomo December 3, 2013 at 6:45 am #

    Was the whole thing an accident or what? Just asking coz Rossie herself said so in an interview on Yarona FM ‘s I fak I safety Belt show. Apparently the fight was between David and the guy and Motene was hit by a mistake. Well not that I condoned all that has happened, Its a pity that the cops handled Rossie the way they did.. Tota gone truth be told, Botswana police service in to some extent sleeping on their role to protect all people even Batswana themselves. Incidents of negligence are an order of the day I am telling you, I have witnessed it.

  29. Dale ter Haar December 3, 2013 at 7:05 am #

    Please e mail me the details of the individual that did this so I can ensure it is investigated. This reflects very poorly on Botswana, the hotel and the police.

  30. Steve Mothibi December 3, 2013 at 8:18 am #

    This guy is just a nobody and is not even connected to anything otherthan cricrime.The guy even went to prison for causing death by reckless driving. Don’t make it seem like the police were protecting him.the Botswana police is known for slow response to issues. ..I know I once had to take matters into my hands after an old lady was hit by a car and they took time to respond.

  31. Eunice Stoffel December 3, 2013 at 9:27 am #

    I wish you a speedy recovery Sis Rosie. God be with you and give you strength.

  32. Miso December 3, 2013 at 10:01 am #

    As a Motswana I am mortified and disgusted at the way you have been treated. I can only say that I am truly sorry you had to experience such, and the fact that it was in my country. I hope you see this through and get justice.

  33. David E Mnjama December 5, 2013 at 4:52 am #

    The man is called Bissau Gaobakwe. Rosie I am a huge fan, was gutted to know that you were in town and this happened. Please do not let this go. O can put you in touch with great lawyers who will not let this go.

  34. Andrew December 5, 2013 at 7:03 pm #

    Botswana is an extremely stable country with excellent leaders and security, (Ranked no 2 in Africa), They do not have a situation where anybody is above the law, I suggest you follow the normal channels with your complaint, I am certain the Botswana officials will investigate your complaint and revert back to us with an impartial finding.

  35. Dumisane hadebe December 9, 2013 at 4:54 pm #

    You are really doing a very good job my sister,keep it tight please. God needs peaple like u,who takes responsiblity by changing wrong 2 right.l support u 100%. thanks 4 the good

    • rosiemoteneblog December 10, 2013 at 4:48 am #

      Thank you for your response.
      Much appreciated,
      Rosie Motene

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